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How to Find Joy and Belonging During the Holidays

With winter right around the corner, many of us are getting into the holiday spirit. But while this time of year brings excitement for some, it can also be a difficult time for many people. As the days get shorter and gloomier, it can have a negative impact on our mood. Additionally, the colder weather can make it difficult to see the people we care about. Though it can be challenging to navigate the low-points of the holiday season alone, here are a few tips to help you find joy and connection during this time of year.

1. Make Time for the Small Things

The holidays don’t have to be defined by big events. Sometimes, it’s the small things that can make your days feel more meaningful. This could be as simple as baking cookies (with or without a recipe), rewatching your favorite childhood holiday movies, or taking a quiet walk when the streets are decorated. These moments don’t require much planning, but they can help you slow down and enjoy the little joys the season has to offer.

It’s also okay to set aside time for yourself, even if it’s just a few minutes a day. Doing something you genuinely like, even if it’s unrelated to the holidays, can help lessen the stress of the season. Whether it’s reading, gaming, or just playing music that fits your mood, prioritize activities that leave you feeling a little lighter.

2. Reach Out When You Can

The holidays can feel isolating, especially if your usual support systems aren’t nearby or available. But connection doesn’t always have to be about big plans or events. Reaching out can be as simple as sending a quick text, or calling someone to catch up for a few minutes. These small moments of connection can remind both you and the other person that you’re not alone.

If you’re feeling lonely, don’t underestimate the importance of starting a conversation, even if it feels awkward at first. Share something funny you saw, ask about their favorite holiday memory, or just check in! Sometimes the smallest interactions can spark a bigger connection and make you feel more supported.

3. Make Your Space Comfortable

Your environment can have a big impact on how you feel during the colder, darker months. Creating a space that feels cozy and inviting can make a big difference, even if you’re working with what you have. This doesn’t mean buying fancy decorations. Rearrange your furniture to make things feel fresh, add an extra blanket to your bed, or put up some fairy lights.

Lighting plays a big role during the winter, too! Since natural light is harder to access, consider getting a small desk lamp or even a warm-colored light bulb. Your room can become a small sanctuary where you can recharge and escape from the pressures of the season.

4. Let Yourself Feel How You Feel

There’s a lot of pressure to be happy during the holidays, but the truth is, it’s not that simple for everyone. It’s okay if you’re not feeling festive or if you’re struggling with something else in your life. You don’t have to ignore your feelings or pretend to be cheerful because of the season.

Take a moment to acknowledge what you’re feeling, whether it’s stress, sadness, or even just exhaustion. Letting yourself feel those emotions doesn’t mean you’re ruining the holidays; it means you’re being honest with yourself. If it helps, find ways to work through those feelings, like journaling, talking to someone you trust, or simply giving yourself the time to process.

You’re not obligated to feel or act a certain way during this time of year. Some days will be better than others, and that’s completely normal. What matters is finding small ways to take care of yourself, even when things feel tough.

Wrapping It Up

Whether it’s starting new traditions, reaching out to the people you care about, or simply creating a space where you feel comfortable, focus on what makes you feel good. At the end of the day, this season is what you make of it, and it’s okay to take it one step at a time. For more ideas on how to feel joyous during the holidays, check out My Good Brain’s blogs!