Let’s Make Mental Health Cool: Changing the Conversation at School

Mental health isn’t something we typically talk about openly, especially in school. But if we want to make a real change, it starts with how we talk to each other. Schools are places where students spend most of their time, so it’s crucial that we create an environment where mental health is part of everyday conversations. Let’s change how we discuss mental health among ourselves—starting now!

1. Shift From "I’m Fine" to Real Conversations

How often do we ask someone how they’re doing and get the classic “I’m fine” response, even if we know they’re not? It’s time to change that. Instead of just accepting “fine” as the answer, let’s encourage honest, open conversations. Ask your friends how they’re really feeling—whether it’s in class, at lunch, or during a break. You could say something like, “How’s your day going? No pressure, just checking in.” This simple question can open the door to more meaningful conversations.

It’s important to normalize that it’s okay to not be okay. If someone is struggling, let them know it’s okay to talk about it, and they don’t need to hide it. Being vulnerable about mental health is a strength, not a weakness.

2. Use “How Are You Really Feeling?” Instead of “How Are You?”

We all know that asking “How are you?” is a common part of casual conversations. But when you dig a little deeper and ask, “How are you really feeling?” you’re showing that you care beyond the surface level. It can help others feel safe to open up. This can be a simple habit to start in your daily interactions—whether it’s with close friends or people you don’t know as well.

If someone does open up, listen. Sometimes, just being a good listener can make a huge difference. Don’t feel the need to give advice unless it’s asked for. Often, the most important thing is simply being there for them.

3. Turn Mental Health Into a Group Conversation

One of the best ways to break the stigma around mental health is to make it a topic that’s discussed openly in groups. Whether it's with a small group of friends or during a larger school event, having group conversations about mental health can make it feel less isolated.

You could organize a casual conversation during lunch, start a discussion in a class, or even plan a mental health awareness day at school where students can share their experiences. It might seem awkward at first, but the more we talk about mental health as a group, the more normalized it will become.

4. Support Each Other Through Activities

Talking about mental health isn’t just about words—it’s about actions too. Encourage your friends to join in activities that promote mental well-being, like mindfulness exercises, journaling, or even just spending time outdoors. You can start small by suggesting activities that relieve stress, like going for a walk or doing a quick group workout before exams.

You could also create spaces or clubs in school where students can meet regularly to talk about their mental health, share tips for dealing with stress, and simply support each other. This makes it easier for people to know that they’re not alone in their struggles.

5. Lead by Example: Share Your Own Experiences

Sometimes, the most powerful thing you can do is lead by example. If you’ve struggled with mental health or have faced challenges like anxiety or stress, sharing your story (if you feel comfortable doing so) can help others realize they’re not alone. It creates an environment of trust and shows that it’s okay to talk about difficult topics without judgment.

By being open, you can inspire others to open up as well. It can spark a domino effect where more and more students feel encouraged to share their experiences and seek help when they need it.

6. Create a “Safe Space” for Mental Health

Sometimes, people are afraid to open up because they fear being judged. To help, work on creating safe spaces where students can express themselves without fear of criticism. This can be through designated areas at school, specific lunch groups, or even online spaces where students can talk freely. Encourage people to ask questions, share stories, and offer support. When a space is created where vulnerability is accepted, people are more likely to feel comfortable sharing.

— Change Starts with Us —

Changing the conversation about mental health in schools starts with each one of us. It’s about creating a culture where it’s normal to talk about how we’re really feeling, supporting each other through tough times, and leading by example. If we make mental health a part of our everyday conversations, we can build a stronger, more empathetic school environment where everyone feels understood and supported.

So, let’s stop brushing mental health under the rug. Let’s start real conversations, ask the right questions, and be there for each other. Together, we can make mental health cool by making it a topic we’re not afraid to talk about. Because when we talk about it, we make it easier for everyone to feel seen, heard, and supported.